20 Reasons Dads Matter
Yesterday I happened upon Lisa Belkin’s year end list of parenting trends for 2013. I have enormous respect for Lisa after her decades of reporting at the New York Times and now as a senior columnist...
View Article2012: A Year of Outrages
February 13th Gawker God, Thomas, You’re Such a Pussy (in response to my NYT piece, “Man I Need a Good Cuddle”) ♦◊♦ February 13th The Atlantic On December 14, 2011, the site’s founder, Tom Matlack,...
View ArticleThis Much I Know To Be True
Talking about the most difficult parts of manhood—like race, rape, addiction, parenting, porn, divorce, depression, guns, prison, war and suicide—have a way of stirring up great waves of controversy...
View ArticleGMP Founder Admits to Use of Make-Up
It started so innocently. A Christmas Eve email from the New York Times asking me to write a 300 word column on make-up. I knew I had a secret obsession with my own lipstick and face paint, but I had...
View ArticleDaddy Pick-Up
I am defined by what I love. That includes the ritual of getting my son from school. My son Cole is in second grade. I often drive him to school. In the afternoon I return to wade through the...
View ArticleRaising Teenagers For Dummies (Like Me)
Tom Matlack thinks about how to best raise his kids all day long, even now that they’ve grown into teens. Here are some of his insights. — Let me first talk about this from a dad’s perspective,...
View ArticleWhat Role Does Hollywood Have in Gun Violence?
A new video is turning Hollywood’s “Demand a Plan” gun law PSA on its head. The original video was released in the wake of the Dec. 14 mass shooting in Newtown, Conn., and featured dozens of...
View ArticleOn Gaslighting and Male Privilege
“Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented with the intent of making a victim doubt his or her own memory, perception and sanity.[1] Instances may range...
View ArticleA Week in Tweets …
#bbpBox_287691146174529536 a { text-decoration:none; color:#7735D4; }#bbpBox_287691146174529536 a:hover { text-decoration:underline; }@TMatlack @So_I_SAW I thought 'The Good Douche Project' was both...
View ArticleHow Do We Talk to Boys About Violence?
One of my earliest memories is on South Hill in Ithaca, New York. The neighborhood boys had caught a frog and pinned it down in the woods. Somebody had firecrackers and poked them into the body of the...
View ArticleOn Cleaning My Office
I’m home today with that kind of cold that feels like someone is standing on your chest doing jumping jacks. I picked it up from my 7-year-old. He was in the middle of a two-hour game of basketball...
View ArticleWhat Is Good?
…pleasant, fine, competent, skilled, useful, adequate, reliable, untainted, kind, giving, well-behaved, authentic, real —Synonyms for “good” according to Thesarus.com …morally excellent; virtuous;...
View ArticleA New Year’s Resolution Via Walden Pond
This morning I went to my AA meeting. It was the first time in months that I have actually felt anything there with my heart. A woman brought her toddler in and he gradually woke up in his stroller...
View ArticleA Snowy Drive and the Voices of Sandy Hook
It snowed last night—a heavy dusting of the fluffy white stuff. I almost forgot that such a thing was possible. It looked so beautiful on the big old beech trees in the park across the street from our...
View ArticleFirst, Let’s Kill All the Blue Screens
There’s the fablets and the iPad minis; the Surface and the Air; the iMac and the Fire; the Android and the 5; the 100-inch plasmas and the HD projectors; the DS and the Wii; Android, BlackBerry (for...
View ArticleWhen A Divorce Makes a Better Dad
GMP founder Tom Matlack reflects on the trials and triumphs of divorce on fatherhood At the Good Men Project, we’re having a conversation on what it means to be a good man, and what it means to be a...
View ArticleShe’s the One
Tom Matlack talks to married men to find out when they knew their wife was ‘the one.’ Guys get a bad rap when it comes to romance. The guys I know who are happily married have a story about how they...
View ArticleThe Sports Guy (and so much more)
Sometimes you meet a guy you just instantly like. Omer is like that. We’ve known each other for years, talked about work and family and manhood. And each time I come away feeling like he was in my...
View ArticleCousins Talk God
I’ve often found that boys are capable of a more frank discussion of manhood than us older guys are. When I have gone to boys’ schools to speak the questions are always so blunt, the interest in what...
View ArticleWhat’s a Guy to Do?
Major media has done it again. The New York Times Magazine today has a piece entitled: “Lean In, Dad” in which a young-sounding female writer, CATHERINE RAMPELL, bemoans the fact that her last two...
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